Are you magnetic? I believe you are! But maybe you don’t feel it. We all know that person that others always gravitate towards. Or do you typically worry people will not like you? Below is a fantastic article from psychology educator, Francesca Tighinean. It gives some great suggestions on how to go into a situation and tweak how you approach others and make yourself more approachable. Guess what? It has all to do with showing warmth.

Takeaway for me: “It helps to remember that most of us dramatically overestimate how harshly we’re being judged. Psychologist call this the spotlight effect-the tendency to believe we are far more scrutinized than we actually are. In reality, everyone in the room is too busy worrying about themselves.” Also this: “You could be the most accomplished person in the room, but if people don’t perceive you as warm, they simply won’t want to be around you.”

Here’s a link to the article. I got a lot out of it. I hope you do too. Lmk your thoughts!

Apparently 85% of what we worry about actually does NOT comes true. That’s mind boggling. This is an older article and to be fair, written before the global pandemic but a good article nonetheless. And a few tips on how to “rewire your brain to quiet the worry circuit.” Here

Everyone. Let’s all take a long deep breath. Let’s sit for a moment. I know you are all running and on the go. Working long hours. Watching your preteens and dealing with their changing hormones. Stressing about your full on teenagers and praying they are happy and at peace and being safe. Taking care of an elderly ill person. Taking care of a child with special needs and/or learning disabilities. Mourning the loss of a loved one. Feeling down about the state of your family and/or lack thereof. Not feeling supported by a partner. Trying to understand the complexity of your child unhappy in their body and wanting to be called a different name than the one you gave them. Working through aches and pains in your own body. Worrying incessantly about a senior family member and their health issues. Possibly dealing with perimenopause and all the joy (not) it brings. 😮‍💨 Sickened and depressed about the state of the world and all the injustice and inhumanity. IT’S… A L O T.

Do you ever take a minute and just sit with yourself and really marvel at all that you do on the daily? Like truly? You are a force. You go above and beyond. You must know that you are a super person. Do not get down on yourself if you make a mistake. Try not to feel inadequate if something doesn’t go the way you expected it to. Believe that you are amazing, caring and loving. My motto that I share with close friends is: let’s just take this day by day. That is all we can do. We get up and we do our best. Day by day. Just breathe. 🙏🏼💞